Chapter Four — The Entity of Words

This thought was born on one of my long walks.

I love walking. Sometimes for hours, without a particular destination, only to be in motion and let my thoughts develop at their own pace.

There is something about walking that allows me to think differently.

The streets change, people pass by me, and I find myself remembering things I had not thought about for years.

On that day a sentence someone once said to me suddenly rose in me.

One sentence only.

I did not remember the whole conversation, but I remembered the place where I stood when I heard it, the voice that said it and even the feeling I had at that moment.

I wondered whether the person who said that sentence to me remembers it at all.

Probably not.

And yet, his words kept accompanying me for years.

I thought of all the words I have heard in my life.

Thousands of conversations, countless sentences, things said with intent and things that slipped out incidentally.

Most were forgotten.

But a few remained.

Sometimes it is precisely a small sentence, with no drama in it, that keeps echoing within us long after the conversation ended.

What makes certain words remain, while others disappear almost immediately?

And do we really know what happens to our words after we say them?

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I kept walking, and in my thoughts I tried to imagine the words themselves as an entity one could converse with.

Unlike time, which I could not give a shape, and memory, which I imagined as an older woman, this time no figure rose in my mind.

I heard voices.

Voices of people I loved, of people I met along the way, of those who were part of my life for a short or long time.

And among them also my own voice, from different periods of my life.

"You still hear us," one of the voices said.

"Only some of you," I replied. "Most of the words I heard I no longer remember."

"You cannot remember all of them."

"But why do certain words remain? What is in them that is not in others?"

"It is not always about the words themselves. Sometimes it is the meaning they had for you at the moment you heard them."

"Meaning, the same sentence can influence me differently at different periods of my life?"

"Certainly. A sentence that sounds unimportant to you at twenty may take on deep meaning at fifty."

I pondered that.

How many times did I hear advice I attributed no importance to, and only years later understood what the person who said it meant?

"So perhaps there are words we understand only after we go through certain experiences," I said.

"And perhaps there are words you understand well the moment they are said, but only later do you discover how much they influenced you."

"And what about the person who says them?" I asked. "Does his identity matter?"

"Certainly. The same words can sound different when spoken by a person you love, a person you value or a stranger."

I thought of simple sentences I heard from people close to me.

Words that might not have been especially impressive had they been written on a page, but in those people's voices had an entirely different meaning.

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"I want to ask you something about my own words," I said.

"What would you like to know?"

"What happens to them after I say them?"

"They reach whoever hears them. But the meaning he gives them is not always identical to the one you intended."

"Even when I choose them carefully?"

"Even then. Every person has his own life experience, memories and sensitivities. Sometimes he hears in your sentence something you did not think of at all."

I recalled conversations in which I was sure I had managed to explain myself well, and only later discovered that the other side understood something else.

"So how can one know that we were understood?"

"One can ask. One can listen to the response. One can try to explain again. But full understanding is not always possible."

"That is interesting," I said. "We use the same words, and yet do not always mean the same thing."

"Think, for example, of the word 'home.'"

"What about it?"

"For one person it evokes a feeling of safety. For another it recalls longing, and for someone else perhaps precisely loneliness. The word is identical, but the world it evokes is different."

I kept walking.

How much meaning we put into simple words, and how little of that meaning is visible to others.

"So perhaps we do not really transfer thoughts from person to person," I said. "We give others words, and they build from them a thought of their own."

"Sometimes the thoughts are very close to one another," the voice replied. "And sometimes they drift apart."

"And perhaps that is why it is so important to listen, and not only to speak."

"What makes you think so?"

"Because if I want to understand another person, I need to take interest also in the meaning he gives his words, and not only in the meaning I am used to giving them."

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"There are also words I remember because they hurt me," I said after a while.

"I know."

"Interesting how a sentence can end within seconds, but its influence can last for years."

"Words can stir emotions, change beliefs and influence the way a person sees himself. Especially when they come from someone whose opinion matters to him."

"And sometimes a person says something without understanding how much it hurts."

"True. And sometimes he knows very well."

I fell silent.

I thought of the difference between a word said out of momentary anger and a word said with intent to hurt.

Both can hurt, but not always in the same way.

"Can words that have already been said be repaired?" I asked.

"They cannot be returned to the moment before they were said. But one can apologize, explain, change behavior and create new experiences."

"And is that always enough?"

"No."

I liked that short answer.

Sometimes we want to believe that everything can be repaired by means of the right sentence.

But not every hurt disappears following an apology, and not every forgiveness returns the relationship to what it was.

"And still," I said, "I think there is great power also in good words."

"What power?"

"Sometimes one person tells you that he believes in you, and you keep hearing that sentence even years later."

"And what do you do with it?"

"Sometimes I believe in myself a little more."

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Further along the way I reached a quieter street.

There were tall trees and old houses in it, and every so often voices were heard from open windows.

I thought of all the words that were not said.

There are things we keep within us for years.

A sentence we wanted to say to a loved one. A question we did not dare ask. An apology postponed again and again, until the right moment had passed.

"What happens to the words we did not say?" I asked.

"They do not become a memory in the person who did not hear them," the voice replied. "But the thought of them can keep existing in you."

"Sometimes those are precisely the ones that occupy me more than the words I said."

"Why, in your view?"

"Perhaps because they have no end. When I say something, I at least know that I said it. When I am silent, I can keep imagining what would have happened had I spoken."

"And do you think it is always right to say what one feels?"

"No."

I answered almost immediately.

"There are things that do not have to be said. Sometimes silence can be a right choice."

"So how do you distinguish between a silence you are at peace with and a silence you regret?"

That question accompanied me for a few steps.

"Perhaps by the reason I was silent," I said at last. "Did I stay silent out of consideration for the other person, or because I feared his reaction?"

"And can the two always be separated?"

"Probably not."

I recalled the conversation I imagined with fear during a flight.

How many times is he present also at the moment we choose words, or decide not to say them at all.

But not every silence is fear, just as not every utterance is courage.

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"I want to ask you about writing," I said.

"I am listening."

"In recent years I write a lot. Stories, books, thoughts. Sometimes I wonder why it is so important to me to put them into writing."

"What do you feel when you write?"

"That I manage to give shape to things that go around in my head. Sometimes I begin writing without knowing exactly what I think, and only in the course of writing does the thought become clear."

"So writing is not only a way to keep thoughts that already exist. Sometimes it is also a way of discovering them."

I loved that phrasing.

"True. There are things I would not manage to explain in conversation, but when I sit before a page and begin to write, they find their way out."

"And what happens after you finish writing?"

"Sometimes I read the things again and am surprised. As if a part of me knew something I had not yet managed to phrase for myself."

"And do you always agree with what you wrote in the past?"

I laughed.

"Absolutely not."

"So what do you do with your old words?"

"Sometimes I correct them. Sometimes I leave them as they were, because they belong to who I was when I wrote them."

"And perhaps that too is part of the value of writing," the voice replied. "It allows you to meet thoughts you had at other periods of your life."

I thought of old notebooks, of sentences I wrote and forgot, and of ideas that returned to me after years.

Interesting how many times we change without noticing, and only when we read something we wrote in the past do we notice the distance we have traveled.

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"And what happens to written words after they leave me?" I asked.

"They can reach people you will never meet."

"And perhaps also people who have not yet been born."

"Possibly."

I thought of old books I had read.

Words written tens and even hundreds of years ago, by people who lived in a world entirely different from mine.

And yet, sometimes I found in them a thought that felt as if it had been written especially for me.

"That is one of the wonderful things about writing," I said. "The possibility of conversing with a person without sharing the same time with him."

"Also without knowing whether he will ever read you."

"True."

"And is it important to you to know what will remain of the things you write?"

I pondered the question.

"I suppose so. I would be glad to know that someone read, thought, perhaps found in my words something that was meaningful to him."

"And if you do not know?"

"That does not necessarily detract from the reason I wrote."

I recalled the jewelry box I bought in the antique shop.

I did not know to whom it had belonged, but it stirred in me thoughts about lives I had not known.

Perhaps written words can also pass that way from person to person.

Sometimes without a name, without a clear story, only with the possibility of stirring a new thought.

"There is something that intrigues me," I said. "Does the meaning of a text belong to the one who wrote it or to the one who reads it?"

"What do you think?"

"I think both have a part in it. The writer brings his thoughts and his intentions, but the reader meets them from within his own life."

"And if he understands something entirely different from what you meant?"

"Perhaps I would be interested to know how he got there. And perhaps sometimes I would also be disappointed."

"That is possible."

"But I am not sure I would want everyone who reads me to think exactly like me. After all, I too do not read books only in order to agree with the author."

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The light began to change.

The street was quieter, and I was already on my way back.

"I have one more question," I said to the voice that accompanied me.

"Which?"

"Are there words that have no substitute?"

"What do you mean?"

"Sometimes I try to explain a feeling and do not find the exact word. I use several words, describe, compare, and still feel that something remains outside."

"Not every experience can be conveyed in full by means of language."

"So will there always be a distance between what we feel and what we manage to say?"

"Often. But that distance does not make the attempt worthless."

I thought of all the times I sat before a page and searched for a sentence that would fit the thought exactly.

Sometimes I found it.

Sometimes I compromised.

And sometimes I deleted everything and began again.

"Perhaps that is why I keep writing," I said. "Because there is always something more I am trying to understand, and another way to phrase it."

The voice did not reply.

And I felt no need for an answer.

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When I got home, the imagined conversation still accompanied me.

I thought of the sentence that rose in my memory at the start of the walk.

A person said it years ago, perhaps without attributing any special importance to it.

He went on with his life, and I with mine.

And yet, his words arrived with me to this day.

I do not know which of my words remained with others.

Perhaps a sentence I said to my children. Perhaps something I wrote. Perhaps a short conversation with a person I met by chance.

And perhaps there are people who remember things I said, and I myself have already forgotten.

There is something intriguing in that.

We know when we begin to speak, but we do not always know when our words finish their journey.

I opened the notebook and began to write.

I did not try to think about who would read the things in the future, or whether anything would remain of them.

I only wanted to keep the thoughts that rose in me during the walk, before they scattered among the rest of the day's matters.

And then I stopped for a moment before the page.

I thought about how perhaps in years to come I will read these words and understand them differently.

And perhaps someone else will read them and find in them a meaning that never crossed my mind.

I did not know.

I kept writing.

Continue to Chapter Five: The Entity of Beginning

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